On extroverts and introverts...

My friend and I were sitting in my living room when David walked in the door home from school. David looked at said friend she looked at him and there was some weird silent acknowledgment and they both proceeded with what they were doing without saying a word to each other. Then I blurt out, "well say 'hello' you two!". The only person that was uncomfortable in that 5 seconds was me because the other two were introverts. To me that is the epitome of extroverts vs introverts. So of course I pull those two out of their comfort zones just so I don't feel awkward. It should be mentioned that David and my friend know each other really well and have had many conversations.

As an extrovert sometimes I just don't understand how someone can be in a group setting have thoughts/feelings on the discussion at hand and not say a word. David and I have lengthy conversations regarding this all the time. While he gets labeled as standoffish I can get labeled as "running at the mouth". David around close friends and family will talk as much if not more than I do but put him in a new social setting and he is close to mute. Essentially, I can tell stories about things he says or does and I paint the picture of who this quiet guy actually is. When we were first married I used to feel a little heart broken that outsiders would never get to know David when he's comfortable and lets his guard down. How poignant is that of who I am that I not only want to share myself with everyone but I want to share him too, dang it. But now I've come to appreciate the humility that comes as part of the introvert package. He doesn't lay all his cards on the table all the time saying look what I've done (for good or for bad). He's not seeking for the public opinion or approval as many of us extroverts do on a regular basis. So, while I'm diligently trying to help him open up more I'd like to say he's earnestly trying to teach me that sometimes less is more but he's not (see, how great he is?). Mostly, he's just trying to teach me not exaggerate too much when I tell stories about him because you better believe those are the few times he'll step out of his shell to tell say it how it is. Maybe, I do enjoy the luxury of describing him a little too much.

So are you an introvert or an extrovert? What about your spouse?